Happy Birthday Sylvan! 4 2/3 is here.

Posted by julie on Thursday, 13 May 2010, 20:18

Sylvan's high school senior portrait

Dear Sylvan,

Today, Elena and I waited in your classroom while you finished up your cinnamon toast and fruit snack. You washed your hands and gravitated toward the touch table, filled with cornmeal and black beans (mmm, tamales). Ready for resistance, I reminded you that we were on our way out the door. “Okay,” you said. No problema.

We headed into the lobby, because Elena wanted some milk. You settled into building and stacking with the wooden tree house, keeping yourself fully occupied. When she was done having milk and wanted to play, you grabbed wooden discs from her, snarling, “No! I’m playing with that.”

I loaded you and Elena into the double jogger, with a little coaxing necessary for the toddler one of you. We crossed the street right behind a 5-year-old girl. You leaned out and said, “That’s Julia.” You and Julia smiled at each other, and Julia told me a story about a skunk and a raisin (not really, but it was a 5-year-old’s story; it could have been about a skunk and a raisin).

We reached University Park, and Elena practically stopped the jogger by sheer force of will: slide, slide, slide, slide, slide, slide. “If I think it enough, I will make it happen.” You hopped out of the jogger and walked directly toward the 9-year-old girl building teepees with sticks in the sand, trying to avoid her own little sisters. As I tried to make sure your daredevil sister didn’t tumble off the slide, I occasionally watched your interactions with the girl. You talked, she talked, she built, you watched, you knocked down her structures with a stick, she clapped, you talked some more. When I approached you once, you said, “I don’t want you here.” She told me, when you came over to slide, that you reminded her of a much older boy she knows and that you’re sweet.

At home, you played in the sandbox for 30 or so minutes on your own before coming in to make your sister cry.

All this is to say that you’ve become a complex and interesting little man, not easily distilled into a few words, but I’ll try anyway.

  • You offer little resistance to suggestions that make sense or that are routine: leaving school, leaving the playground in 5 minutes, getting into the jogger.
  • If you’re building or digging with items that interest you and with which you feel competent, you’re content to be on your own for 30-60 minutes at a time.
  • You don’t like to share with Elena, especially when you’re playing with a toy first, despite the fact that the roles are reversed quite often, and you become insistent that the 1-year-old should share with you (Let me tell you something about role modeling, Sylvan…).
  • You enjoy the company of girls quite a bit. I have seen you play with boys, and you seem to play best with boys a little older than you, boys who don’t threaten to act like little brothers, swiping your stuff or dumping sand on you. You worship those well-behaved boys , at least a little, making Star Wars ships that look exactly like Robbie’s, for instance. But I’ve seen your eyes light up when you talk about girl friends at school (and Camilla’s in a whole other category, really, one that makes you jump up and down).

Sometimes, you still say funny things: “We’re going to Mars. If we smell a bad smell, it might be Martians.”

I love you, even if I can only get a kiss by telling you I don’t want one,
Mommy

This kid is so delighted. Can you tell?

Power you wish you had

Posted by jonesey on Monday, 10 May 2010, 17:00

After a discussion in which Sylvan said only God could “stop an earth-crank from happening”:

Chris: “What’s God?”

Sylvan: “A person who if he gets eaten by a orca has the power to make the orca spit him back out.”

Two Eggs (Ubb)

Posted by jonesey on Friday, 7 May 2010, 22:29

When Sylvan was about 20 months old, he went from waking up a zillion times in the middle of the night, every night, just because he wanted company, to waking up at 1:30 in the morning and absolutely not going back to sleep because he was starving. After a few nights of this, one of us figured out that we should take him downstairs and stuff him full of scrambled eggs, then put him back to bed.  He slept well.

Then we got really smart. We started feeding him two scrambled eggs immediately before bedtime. And when I say immediately, I mean get your pajamas on, read some books, then go back downstairs, eat two eggs and straight to bed with you, mister boy.

It worked.  He slept through the night, just like that. We fed him two eggs, immediately before bedtime, for months, according to my hazy memory. We went through a lot of eggs. We considered making sacrifices to the chicken gods to ensure plentiful, but what do you sacrifice to chicken gods?

Elena was different.  She slept through the night — most nights — until a few months ago.  We were spoiled. Then she started waking up once a night. Then twice, then three times. Sometimes she would go right back to sleep with a little help, but usually she needed some milk, or a walk around the house, or a walk around the block (ugh). We tried to feed her some eggs right before bedtime, but she has never been the voracious eater that her brother was, and she wasn’t all that interested.

Two nights ago, she woke up at 1:00 and absolutely refused to go back to sleep.  We walked around.  We talked about what we saw outside the window. We went downstairs.  Finally, I offered her some food.  She wanted cheese (she says “gee!”), so I sat her in her chair and fed her a piece of cheese. Ten pieces of cheese, half a peanut butter sandwich, and a cup of cow milk later, she was ready to go back to bed.  She slept well.

Last night, we finally got smart. I got her ready for bed, then fed her two eggs (“ubb!”) right before putting her to sleep.

I awoke in the pre-dawn light, all by myself without an alarm, without hearing any yelling. I was completely bewildered and completely refreshed. What time is it? Heck, what day is it? Am I late for my race? Is it Saturday? Friday? I had just slept all night.  All night! Straight through, without waking up. I can’t remember the last time that happened. Really, I have no idea. It’s been many months, for sure. Wait a minute, if I just slept all night, that means… that means Elena slept all night!

Oh, glorious eggs (ubb!). How I love you. How I cherish you.

Two Eggs (Ubb!)

Elena and Ubb, about fifteen minutes before bedtime

Firsts, Agains

Posted by julie on Monday, 22 March 2010, 23:50

Overheard this weekend:

S: That was my first newt.

S: That was my first milkshake.

And it rolls around again:

Sylvan in the sand, May 2007

Sylvan in the sand, May 2007

Elena in the sand, March 2010

Happy Birthday, Elena! You’re 19 Months.

Posted by julie on Monday, 15 March 2010, 13:33

Dear Elena,

I sorted through hand-me-down pink and purple pants and re-arranged the already-worn shoes so that I’d be able to find them more easily when you’re big enough to wear them. You were busy too: I found bits of a bar of soap smushed into the upstairs hallway floor. That never would have happened when your brother was a year and a half old. He wouldn’t have let me be far enough away that he could have gotten away with that, and, in a vicious circle, I wouldn’t have given him the independence to swipe soap and make floor art with it. You started out independent, so your new cleverness and mobility just mean that I will undoubtedly find many more floor murals.

Sylvan enjoys his privacy when he’s in the bathroom. But you don’t always respect that yet, AND you’ve become quite the little imp. One day, as he sat in the bathroom saying, “No, no, I don’t want you in here, Elena,” you looked back at Daddy and me and held your foot up in the air, dangling it into the bathroom. Monkey!

Elena's monkey face. This one is for Hanna and Sebastian.

Elena's monkey face. This one's for Hanna and Sebastian.

Elena performing during a party at our house

Elena performing at a party at our house.

Nearly a month ago, you started to gain more verbal language. We’ll compile a more comprehensive list in another entry, but your favorite words are “Bob” (“bobp”), originally referring to a small, plastic Bob the Builder figure, but also for other 3-inch high dolls; “draw” (“daw”), one of your favorite things in the world to do; “Daddy” (“dada”), probably your favorite person, judging by the smiles and the happy dance that he elicits; and “Mommy” (“mama”). Back in January, you started to say “water” by hitting your hand against your mouth and making “wah-wah” sounds, in a modified version of the sign for “water.”

You, Sylvan, and I have gone to the pool a handful of times in the past few weeks. The first time, you cried. We hadn’t been to a pool since last August, so you probably had no recollection of a vast tub of warm water. You settled in, and now you fearlessly walk through the shallow water, occasionally losing your footing and sputtering when I pull you out. You really enjoy floating on your back. I’m surprised at your willingness to let me lay you back; you don’t arch up or try to force your head up in a pilates crunch.

Often, when I go to Dance Africa rehearsal, you join me. For a while, that was challenging and stressful for me, because the noise and crowd made you nervous, so you wanted to be in my arms the whole time. (And you were often running away from your brother…) As you’ve started to dance more, now when the drummers drum, you start marching around, beating your hands as if you had maracas in them. You love Sandra Boynton’s Barnyard Dance, with all its twirling, swinging, and promenading. That’s a great book for a family square dance. You also regularly come into the kitchen, tilt your chin to the ceiling, and start spinning until you fall down. Recently, you’ve added trying to jump to your repertoire. Daddy says you can jump off both feet, but I haven’t seen that yet, just the attempts, which look like alternately stamping your feet and stiffening your whole body.

You, in bullet form:

  • Elena, you sleep. I didn’t know babies did that. If you awake in the middle of the night, it’s for a good reason, like, ow, these molars are pricking their way through my tender gums.
  • You climb the stairs, often without a spotter, and you slither your way back down, especially if you’re wearing footie pajamas. They’re the best for sliding.
  • You love to read, especially while you’re sitting on the potty. Three of your favorite books are photographs of baby faces: one that has sign language, which you do or attempt; one with exclamations, like “Uh-oh!”, which you like to say; and one with kissing babies, among other photos.
  • For at least two months, you’ve enjoyed kissing and hugging. For a while, you kissed the kissing babies in the baby signing book. Now, you’ve moved on to people. You’re the most generous hugger I’ve ever met.
  • You find all the cats in the book One Moose, Twenty Mice, a beautifully-made book of photographs of felt cut-outs of animals and numbers that our friend Wendy gave baby Sylvan. Sylvan can read it to you, and he helps you find the cats if you have trouble.

One Moose, Twenty Mice

  • You like dogs are you aren’t afraid of them. Learning not to blindly approach pooches is our next step.
  • A couple of months ago, you started to tell us if your diaper was yucky by hooking your thumbs into the top of your diaper. Now, though, you’re just as likely to shake your head when we ask if you have poop in your diaper: “No, that’s not me.” I hope we didn’t miss the window. Maybe I’ll put you in underwear next week.

I’m pretty sure you’ve already taught me a lot about unbridled joy. Thank you. I love you, Miss E.

Love,
Mommy

Oscar night

Posted by jonesey on Monday, 8 March 2010, 20:52

Our friends Chandra and Eric host an Oscar party every year. They encourage us to dress up, and they even take red carpet photos. This means I get an excuse to wear my tuxedo at least once a year. Here’s a photo of Steve, Eric, and your humble scribe, looking pretty suave.

I'm well dressed, but I have a little face coming out of the back of my head.

What TurboTax interface designers do when they’re bored

Posted by jonesey on Friday, 5 March 2010, 15:35

TurboTax is always good for a laugh or two at this time of year.

You bet it is.

Our Life, 2/23/10

Posted by julie on Tuesday, 23 February 2010, 20:47

Started off with a great trip to the Stewart Aquatic Center with Sylvan and Elena: warm pool, other kids, mosaics of sea creatures on the pool bottom that scared Elena (it was the “tentacles on the octopus,” said Sylvan), my son undressing and dressing himself in the locker room. I’ve avoided the pool for a while, wondering how I’d manage two kids. Sylvan’s comfortable enough in the water that I just gave him a pool noodle and watched him float around. He says he’s going to do a somersault in the water next time we go.

Lunch at the Hideaway Bakery, my favorite place in Eugene other than my porch. Split a Caprese sandwich (pesto, red pepper spread, fresh mozz, tomatoes on their grilled bread; it’s Sylvan’s favorite sandwich, because he has good taste), had cups of tomato-y Tuscan soup while Elena napped.

At home, the kids did this (note the chalky footprints):

while I finally put some framed pictures up on this wall. It’s pages of a spiral-bound calligraphy instruction book I found at a book sale long ago. It looks good on the wall, but it’s nothing compared to the kids’ neon chalk-enhanced “paper machine.”

And I got this picture in my e-mail today, which was taken yesterday. Cool, huh?

This was our house on Sunday, after Sylvan and Chris had mowed the grass, complete with small imp knocking blossoms off pretty, blooming trees:

It’s raining now, so no need to be envious.

RDA of Vitamin D, View from My Window

Posted by julie on Saturday, 20 February 2010, 17:48

Ah, spring in February. Alarming, yes, but also so lovely. The kids and I celebrated on Thursday by heading out to Mt. Pisgah. After floating sticks down the stream, Sylvan found this “cave,” so very Eugene. All three of us easily fit inside.

Then we headed toward the river. The kids acted silly along the way, Sylvan with a goofy grin, Elena with a new hat.

That’s Lobaria pulmonaria, lungwort or lung lichen, on her head. The arboretum must be a pretty undisturbed habitat to support this relatively sensitive lichen.

At the river, there was much rock throwing and finding of insect nymphs on the underside of the nearby stream’s rocks.

Today, the kids and I spent as much time as possible outdoors, much of it at Tugman Park, perhaps my new favorite park. I love the combination of big, open field; sandy playground; and stream area with little riparian zone. The locked bathrooms left a little to be desired. Chris had the camera at his race, so use your imagination.

When I returned home, I snapped this photo of the view from my window. That’s the prettiest cat in the world backed by some beautiful blooming plum trees and Spencer Butte just over the roofline of the house across the street. Ah.

Coy Tephra: "No, I will not turn toward the camera."

Van Smackdown, Part II

Posted by julie on Friday, 19 February 2010, 10:53

Really? A Volkswagen camper-van is a minivan? Okay, “unibody construction,” “V6 engine,” “I read too much Car and Driver.” I understand data; I am a trained scientist under the façade of diaper bags and dirty dishes, but would you call these vehicles minivans?

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From VW Camper - The Inside Story by David Eccles

There are vans, there are minivans, then there are Volkswagens. I suppose VW vans have always occupied a separate category in my brain’s filing system, whether they have pop-tops or not. I don’t claim to be a car aficionado, and I suppose VW vans, even if their tops pop to reveal sleeping space, might be categorized as minivans (if your world is black and white). But let’s look at another picture, more evidence for you. Would you say this interior is in a minivan? Or would you instead say the vehicle is more like a “mini RV”?

1970_VW_Camper_interior

From aaronx's flickr photos (CC BY 2.0)

All mini-vans have tables and cabinets and curtains, right?

I realized that in making a big deal out of this, I must be somehow admitting that “The Analyst” is right, that this is a minivan. But I sort of have a lot riding on this: I have been known to say that I’ll never drive a minivan. Chris has, more than once, admonished, “Never say never.” And you might know that I don’t like being wrong (but I often am).

For me, this argument comes down to intention. I intended to buy a camper. The main reasons we got this van are:

  1. We live in Oregon, and we like to camp. We had a very soggy experience in the Wallowas last June, while camping in tents out of our diminutive vehicle with a 3-year-old and a baby. It was less than pleasant. That planted the seed.
  2. Chris, the man who never wants anything other than used books for Christmas, said, “I’ve wanted a camper-van since I was seven.”

Additional supporting arguments in favor of a larger vehicle included:

  1. I would like to go for a hike with another parent and his or her kids without having to caravan two hours to get there. Wouldn’t company be nice?
  2. After setting up appointments to buy trees last fall, I canceled because I couldn’t manage to find a time when: I wouldn’t have the kids, the nursery was open, and I had someone else’s pick-up truck that would fit the trees. Now, the kids AND the trees will fit in the van. It will be nice to occasionally have a little cargo space.
  3. When our parents visit, we either have to rent an extra or bigger vehicle or decide not to go anywhere beyond walking distance. I’m glad my parents like the coffee shop around the corner.

I understand that these last three arguments also support buying a minivan, but we didn’t need a minivan – or even a second vehicle, really. We wanted a camper with some nice side benefits. I feel guilty tooling around town in my 40 mpg recycled cooking oil- and canola-powered car. It’s still a car. I don’t intend to pick up the groceries or the kids at soccer practice in the camper-van.

That said, if you see me in the Market of Choice parking lot with the camper, and we’re not on our way to the trailhead, you may hurl the slings and arrows.